ABOUT YOU
You are a high achiever.
Always a top performer, you have risen to an admired level of success. Your competency and passion – as well as your work ethic, perfectionism and talent to please – have served you incredibly well. Congratulations! You did it! And it has been a wild and rewarding ride.
What’s next? You hear a rustling that there is something more, something different, for you. Sometimes it is a whisper and other times it is a roar.
What do you want to do, have and be? Beyond the chorus of the “shoulds” and all of the messages of what “they” value, what do you truly value? How do you define success? What makes your heart leap? What is your true dream? What is the status quo – the life of your future, if nothing changes the course?
What could your ideal life look like? What choices exist? Are those choices even possible? How fully have you formulated and considered the possibilities? What would it mean to have a designated, supportive space, pillared by both the head and the heart, to fully explore, vet and clarify those possibilities, clarify the vision and then create a step-by-step strategy to implement that goal?
But what about that gremlin voice in your head, the one that says that you are not good enough, not worthy, not deserving, not capable? Why it is that this gremlin speaks even louder, and more boldly, now that you have had so much success? Doesn’t he see all the evidence of your worth? What would “they” think and say, he taunts? You would hate to have a misstep, after having come this far, he warns!
What is holding you back from the breakout year of your dreams? What would it take to be willing to consider risking all the goals you have achieved in order to achieve the goals of your dreams?
You value authenticity.
The financial rewards, professional recognition and social status of your accomplishments are meaningful, but the core of who you are is your strong moral compass, thoughtfulness and caring.
You strive to live authentically. Showing up as your genuine self, rather than “showing well” and “acting a part” in order to “fit in,” is of the utmost importance. When your words and actions are not aligned with your thoughts and your highest values, you feel anxious, irritable and stressed. You don’t sleep well, you don’t feel well. You replay past events and plan for endless future contingencies. Will keeping very busy, having a glass (or three!) of wine, binge watching Netflix or buying something bring relief? Sometimes you ask yourself, Is this job worth it? Where do I belong? Am I the only one who does not agree with this? What would “they” think, if they knew what I thought? Why do I feel obligated and like I “must” continue like this? How can I create boundaries so I can feel some peace? Do I deserve to feel worthy, relaxed, present in the moment? To have fun? What can I do to feel healthy, calm, free, fulfilled…happy?
You are motivated to “grow as a person.”
You are inspired to develop a greater self-awareness, to become more conscious of your values, goals, motivations and behaviors. Which of your goals are based upon your personally held values and intentional desires, rather than upon feelings of “should” and fueled by fear? You are willing to explore limiting beliefs that no longer serve and habits that are getting in your way. You desire to be more present, in the now, in the flow, rather than focused on ruminating about the past or worrying about what might happen. You are ready to replace some of the short-term fixes with a plan for healthy self-care, balance and structure.
You are committed to the coaching process, having a strong desire to “dig deep” and play full out. The timing is right for you to experience this growth opportunity.
This will be your “break out” year. You want to fully explore, vet and clarify what you truly want. You are willing to consider risking the goals you have achieved, in order to create the opportunity to achieve the goals of your dreams.